Living a Mindful Life.

I remember the days of jumping out of bed to begin the rat race called life. Where time was my enemy and each day played like the movie Groundhog’s Day. So many years repeating the same cycle, unfulfilled, stressed, and me playing the victim. I would day dream of a life that was filled with purpose and passion and a person that I knew existed inside, one who was free and loved everything that life held.

Today my life is not the nightmare it once was instead, I have peace, love and an awareness of what is truly important, which is being present in the now. My journey of living mindfully has changed every aspect of my life, but most importantly it has allowed me to heal many parts of myself. When you are present, you are not thinking of the past or the future, you are just being in the now. In the moment of now you become aware of so many things you may have never noticed before, sounds, smells, tastes, all of your senses become more alive and with that you develop a deeper awareness of life and yourself. When you are present it is a time to listen to yourself, to notice what your thoughts are, feel what is needed to be felt and then release them. I have become a better person and an observer of life, where I have learned so much about myself, others and the importance of listening.

Everyone says time goes so fast, how life is short, but so many are still living the rat race of life, why? Making changes in your everyday life to live more mindfully will actually bring you a sense of time, where you are able to stop, breathe in and tune in to what your heart is wanting you to hear. Living mindfully for me is living in my heart, not my head.

These are some of the ways I bring mindfulness into each day:

Wake up and be grateful for another day! Lay in bed and either write in a journal or say in your head what your intention for this new day is. Intentions help us throughout our day to be in the present, kinda like a check in to make sure we are staying where we intended to :)

Meditate for at least 10 mins, before you get that cup of coffee. I know this is hard, it was for me! But making that mindful choice, is amazing!

Walking without a phone! I know crazy, but try it, see how it feels, where your thoughts go and how you feel.

Anytime you eat or drink, look at it, smell it, imagine it. Then drink or take a bite, really pay attention, it will be a completely different experience.

I hope you try some of these mindful activities and they can become a part of your routine. To bring more awareness to our lives allows us to have more peace, love, freedom and a new sense of life. And if you want to know more or would like to talk, please reach out! XO-Rach

Loving Through the unknown.

This last year has changed me in ways that I never could have imagined. Leaving a job that I loved with the people I loved, was one of the toughest decisions I have made. To experience the power of myself and knowing what was good for me was a place I had not been before. I had always toughed out so many things in my life, but this time I knew that was not possible because I was no longer that person. It was the first time since I left my marriage that I did not have a plan, I had many ideas but nothing written in stone. In this space and time of this past year, I have been filled with so much gratitude because time has allowed so much to happen. I used to put time on a limit but, I have realized time is limitless. I truly was able to see what mattered and what did not, where I wanted my energy to be, and where it needed to leave. It truly allowed me to reflect on my life and to realize each day till now has always been unknown, that I might have had ideas or plans but, I had no control over what would happen. That is the beauty of life, it is always changing and guiding us to where we need to be, even if we don’t understand at that moment. I have been slowly letting go of the fears, not questioning or rushing to the “what next”, instead I have been choosing love and trusting myself and the Universe, knowing it has always had my back. Starting a business is a complete unknown, one I never thought I would even try or do, but what I have learned is I am me. I do things my way and realizing that I can not worry about what others may think because I want to stay true to myself, that is the only way I can be. I know this past year has changed all of us in so many ways, but I truly hope you have found the positives in all the negatives, that you see there is always another way to navigate through the unknown times. Life is unknown, so live it with love, embrace the mystery and let go of the fear. XO-Rach

On the other side of fear is love.

I used to believe the opposite of love was hate but, I found it was fear. Hate was never there in the reasons why I felt or had certain thoughts, if anything it was just a scapegoat not to face the real reasons, which was fear. I believe we like to use the word hate so we don’t have to look inside ourselves for the real meaning of our feelings. I stayed in a marriage for too long, not because of hate, but absolute fear of the unknown. I stayed in jobs, which I might not have loved, but hate didn’t keep me, fear did because I was too afraid to leap for what I truly wanted. I have said yes to many things that I wanted to say no, but fear of what others might think of me made me say yes. We all find it easier to say I hate this person or this job, or whatever the scenario may be, but truly if you thought about it, do you really hate? Or is it fear? When I left my marriage I had to let go of fear and that is when I found love, love for myself. When I quit the job that no longer aligned with my morals and values, that is when I found freedom and inner power. When I started saying no to the things not right for me, is when I found peace. Fear robs us of our time, our energy, and leaves us stuck in a place where we pretend to hate. Releasing fear from our life brings us on the path to love, not just for ourselves but for everyone around us. It seems this world has become a place of fear, dividing us and only we can turn that around. Each one of us has a choice in how we want to live our life, in fear or love. How do you chose? Me, always love. XO-Rach

What matters is Love.

“At the end of life, what really matters, is not what we bought but what we built, not what we got but what we shared, not our competence but our character, and not our success, but our significance. Live a life that matters. Live a life of love.” Author Unknown

This quote is powerful, thoughtful and one that makes you stop and think about your life. Each day we get a choice, we do have power in our thoughts, feelings and actions, it is what we decide that matters. I know our world seems to have gone crazy and there is so much more wrong than right, but I also know that light always shines in the darkness and the truth can never be hidden for long. So in this space, I chose to live life in love, it is the one thing I can control and bring peace to myself and to anyone I am with. Love is the highest vibration, you can see and feel love, so imagine if we all lived a life of love. Because in the end, that is all that will matter, nothing else. People will only remember you for the way you made them feel, not for anything else. XO-Rach

Love Through your actions and with your heart...

When you are able to live your life through your heart, that is where you find the magic of life. A place without attachments or judgements toward anyone or anything and in that place you will discover what love truly means. We have always been told to use our mind, but what about our heart? The truth is our heart holds more wisdom than our brain, more compassion, more kindness and most importantly love. Our heart is always speaking to us, giving us information, but many times we push it away, because we have been taught to listen to our mind. Living from your heart can be hard at first, because it challenges you to become real, to be authentic and to feel a way you may never have before. It can make some people uncomfortable and change your relationships, but the real beauty is it opens a whole new world. A world that is lighter, brighter and full of endless possibilities. Living life from your heart will bring you peace, allow you to be present and teach you what love is, which is everything. Love was never made to be difficult, but we were taught it in a way that made it difficult. We came here as love, to live and be love, not to be filled with hate, judgement and the belief that love has conditions. That is living from your mind, not your heart. Which one do you want to live in? XO-Rach

Love is ageless.

What I love about love is it carries no number, it is the essence of who we all are.

I have been blessed to know this special lady for almost two years, she inspires me in so many ways and gives me hope for the world. She has told me her life story and I what I have seen in each of them is her undeniable love for life, herself and her family. Love is the one thing that has stayed constant in her life and it is a true testament that love is the link to living a life filled with joy and gratitude. I want to share one story that is my absolute favorite, for many reasons, one I am a sucker for a love story, but even more than that, how two people remained committed, grew, and supported each other in 74 years of marriage before her husband passed away at 95 years old. She also made me believe in the saying “When you know, you know”.

She was 12 years old when they first met, he was 14 and he knew when he saw her she was the one. They dated for a year and she said he never touched her once or even tried, a true gentleman. A year later they arrived at school for a concert and they were running late, so he said we need to run, he grabbed her hand and she said I lit up like a Christmas tree, my whole body was energized. She knew right then and there, this was something magical, that this boy was meant to be in her life forever and he was and still is.

They had 74 years of marriage together, plus the years before of dating, they had two children and traveled many places together. They were simple, but they loved each and every moment that they shared. Before he passed away, he told her that he didn’t want her to be sad, he said we had a great life together and I want you to be happy and to remember all of our times together. She said when she kissed him for the last time, there was still that energy between them, that her whole body lit up. In less than two months this amazing lady will turn 102!! It is not her age that makes her amazing, it is the way she has loved and chosen to live her life in love. Love is ageless and timeless, it never ends and that is the greatest gift she has taught me.

XO-Rach

Love the dance.

The thing about love is you really have no control over it, no matter how much you believe you do.  Love is in each cell of our body, it is what we are made of.  We take heartbreak personally and want to blame the other person for not loving us.  What we need to see is that no other person can love us in a way that we want or think we should be, that love has to come from ourselves, we must love who we are 100% before we can be allowed to receive love from any other person.  Sometimes things do not work out, but I believe that is the Universe redirecting us, showing us in signs or ways that there is something better, someone who is our other part.  We are programmed to believe so many untruths, where we live in this fairy tale state, only to be let down when we do not receive our happy ending.  If you ever quieted your mind, sat and listened to your heart and became awake to the signs that are given to each of us, you would then know.  You would find the answers you seek as they are in each one of us.  The people who are meant to stay, we teach them and they teach us, we heal them and they heal us.  It is like a dance, flowing with each step and sometimes when the dance is done, some go, because we learned all we could and that is when the  time comes for new dance to enter our lives.  Some dances come in and leave again, because we haven’t learned all that we were meant to, those are sometimes the most challenging dances to understand.  They are the ones that can deeply move us, question ourselves, wonder if we are worthy of ever understanding the steps.  I believe those dances are the most loving, even if they challenge us to the core, that is what they are meant to do.  Life is a dance, we are meant to flow, to learn, to heal, to fall down, and to get back up.  Whatever is meant to be for us, will be, we have no control over that and the sooner we surrender to this dance, the easier it is to flow.  The toughest part is to just Love Through all our dances, to be present in them, to honor them, to cherish them and to absolutely love them.   XO-Rach

What is FLOW?

FLOW is a way of living and being in each moment of our lives. I like to think of it as an ocean, with the waves coming and going naturally, no forcing, just trusting in each motion and knowing we are meant to be right here, right now. Life can bring many unexpected blessings, as well as challenges, both are equally important to embrace. It is in the challenging times of our lives when we can learn the most about ourselves and others. This is when we can choose compassion, love and kindness and ultimately turn a negative into a beautiful positive. I learned along time ago, the more I let go of expectations and outcomes, the more present I became in each moment I had. This allowed myself to flourish, to love, to open myself within, which grounded me into the now, and changed my life in the most amazing ways. To be able to sit with all our feelings, the good and not so good, brings us awareness of what we need to let go of and what we need to heal. Flowing in life brings peace and calm, which in return allows us to be kinder, more loving and to change this chaotic world one breath at a time. How do you FLOW in life? XO-Rach

Introduction and Welcome!

Welcome to Loving Through!!! I am incredibly happy to be here and to share my gifts of coaching and meditation with all who want to receive. This blog is a way for me to share what I have learned and to give wisdom on how I have chosen to Love Through my life in numerous ways and circumstances. When I reflect back to the last few years of my life, my head spins with all that has transpired. I have taken each step with much gratitude and love, no matter how difficult the journey has been, I am blessed for this life I am living. Loving Through is being able to love each step of our lives, the good and the not so good moments that each one brings. Remaining present during each moment brings us clarity and the freedom in choosing how we want to move forward in our lives. I learned long ago that love is who we all our and love is who I am and how I chose to show up each day of my life. I would love for you to sign up with your email, as I will be sending monthly newsletters of what is coming up and topics that I hope will inspire you! Thank you so much for taking the time to visit my site today and if you are interested in coaching or meditation, please send me a message! XO-Rach