What Doesn’t Kill You Makes You More Resilient.

Is resilience built into us, or is it something we learn? My younger self would have said built into, but my wiser self knows it is something we learn. And boy, have I and still continue to learn.

We have choices whenever we encounter a trauma, problem, or hardship. We can either continue to suffer or bounce back and become stronger. The key is in our choosing.

I have always known I have been a “strong” person, but I don’t think I ever believed I could be different. I never considered how my thoughts on something could change my outlook on everything. For example, I used to believe everything was happening to me, and believe me, there were times when it felt like it. But now I know everything was happening for me. That simple adjustment of our thoughts can make all the difference from being a victim to being able to cope and adjust to any situation that comes our way. This human experience is not always the easiest process, but learning and growing from each unpleasant one can support us in the future.

When I reflect on my life to now, I laugh at some moments I thought I would die from. And honestly, there are a lot! One of my favorite things I like to say to myself is, “What is the worst thing that could happen?” My point is that I have the power to decide my path and how I want to navigate any challenges that come my way. We all have moments that feel like we are breaking apart, but what if everything is happening to put us together? Our mindset is everything, but it’s our hearts that will guide us there.

Resilience is a choice, just like anything in life. You can be a victim or your own hero.

I am still alive and go through a lot, but I choose to love through everything. XO-Rach