Loving Through Letting Go

The most difficult part in a relationship is letting go when you know you can not grow together anymore. Where maybe you have learned all you can from each other and now you are to move onto the next place in your journey. This doesn’t always mean both parties are ready for this separation, but it is something that has to happen in order for growth to occur. This can happen in all different relationships not just romantic, it can be with our friends, grown children, really anyone who has a space in our life.

We do get signs I believe when this separation starts to happen, but sometimes it is such a slow process that we might not even realize what is really happening till it is done. I know in my own experiences I have been able to feel something was off, the energy, the communication, but I was not able to understand the why.

To love someone so completely and to be in a space of absolute disconnect can make your heart hurt. I like to think of the saying “If you love someone set them free, if they come back they were meant to be”, this again shows us how we do not have control over someone staying in our lives. It can be devastating to imagine life without certain people in it, but as hard as that is I believe it teaches us to hold loving space. Trusting that our path ended, but knowing that doesn’t mean forever, that it can mean I will see you up ahead.

Letting go is never easy, trusting is never easy, but loving should be the easiest thing we ever do. Resisting change creates much more sadness, when we can be open to seeing what we may not have wanted to, we can then start trusting the process.

I want to end with one of my favorite quotes as it can help you see a different way of letting go. XO-Rach

“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don't resist them - that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like..” - Lao Tzu