Loving Through Healing

Each of us has some form of trauma or multiple traumas we have endured through the years. Some traumas are big, and others are small, but what is the same for all traumas is they need to emerge to heal ourselves.

No one can say they do not have or have had trauma. It is something that happens to all of us. Most traumas occur in our younger years, and they can be small, from someone calling us fat on a playground to big traumas, where a parent dies or some abuse has happened. These traumas will carry with us and manifest in ways we would never have thought. It is like carrying a suitcase filled with stuff you don’t want but don’t know what to do with it. It can sometimes become overwhelming and even crippling to where we can’t move in any direction. It honestly can affect every part of life and our relationships as we can become easily triggered by the words and actions of people around us.

Healing is like an onion, with so many layers that we must go through, and some layers are easier than others. Some layers make you want to stop because the pain of what you are feeling can be too much, but what I know to feel is to be alive; each one helps us grow. Healing isn’t something that happens overnight, it is a journey, and each of us has a different path and timeline.

Even when you feel you have healed something, you could be sitting on a Sunday, and a message pops up, and it can bring you back to a space and time that you never thought you would visit again. The beautiful part of this is this time, you are not that same person, you are a person who has healed this, but you see there was a little bit more to learn and understand. Healing is a beautiful thing for many reasons, but one that I have just experienced is seeing how far I have come and how much I was able to change my thoughts and feelings, which allowed me to see the person I am today. XO-Rach