Loving Through: The Victim

I believe at some point in our lives, we have all been a victim of our life, where we have felt powerless and would rather blame someone else for what has happened. The main thing is to not stay in this place but instead empower ourselves to move forward and take the lessons with us.

When I was younger, I played the victim of my life really well, but I did not get an award. Instead, I received some hard lessons, but today I am grateful for all I have gone through to see and understand how anyone can fall into this cycle.

The first thing I know is nothing happens to us; it happens for us. This may seem crazy to think and believe, depending on what is or has gone on in your life. But when I think about my younger years, I can see how everything did happen for me, not against me, as I believed for many years. Secondly, there is always someone else who is going through something more challenging. Depending on our age, this can be a hard concept to grasp, but the more we can teach our kids this, the more power and empathy they will gain. Lastly, we are never stuck unless we choose to be. I know it can be hard to see past what we may have in front of us, but we always have the power to choose

We all have asked time to time the “Why” questions, wanting to understand but try asking yourself, “What.” What is this showing me, teaching me, or asking of me? What is taking our power to look at our situation or challenge in a different light. Why is asking from a victimized place where we can blame someone or something and take comfort in that.

Life is full of lessons, and the more we can lean into being students, the more power and joy we will create in ourselves. XO-Rach