Loving Through Unbecoming

In order to change anything, you have to unbecome it first.

Awareness of what you do not like or is not working in your life is essential in change. Whether it is a habit, relationship, or a job, knowing what’s no longer supporting you and bringing you joy will allow you the space to observe and feel.

The way to be successful with anything you change in life is to understand why it is not supporting you anymore or fulfilling you in the ways that you need to grow as a human. Depending on what it is you would like to change, reflecting and understanding the why and feeling the feels can be uncomfortable and sometimes bring feelings you would instead not feel. But that is the point of unbecoming. You must understand why you feel the way you do and how you got to the place you did. Once you do this, it will only propel you faster to who or where you want to be. The way we learn and grow is to gain knowledge of what was not working so we understand what we want the next time.

Unbecoming can be messy and complicated as you sit and reflect on things you may never have seen before, either about yourself or someone else. The beautiful part of this process is that you are healing what needs healing so that you can become. XO-Rach