Self Love

Self-love is the most essential thing to have and learn in our existence. Yet, I feel society has not wanted this for ourselves for many reasons. When we get married, the vows we say don’t speak of putting ourselves first or taking care of our well-being or our heart; they tell us to love in a certain way and to endure any problems or behaviors that come our way. Then comes having kids and how we will love them more than ourselves; they will become our whole world. Again, where do we put ourselves?

I remember when I was a little girl (age 4-5), I loved love. I wanted everyone in my family and anyone I met outside to feel my love. But it wasn’t until I was older that I realized I had difficulty accepting love. I could show and give everything of myself but not allow that to come back in. I didn’t grow up in a house where anyone modeled or talked about self-love. I knew my family loved me, but I can say with all confidence no one had their own self-love.

It took me leaving an unhealthy marriage to learn and understand self-love and how you truly will never know love unless you learn to love yourself first. I can’t go back in time to change how I raised my kids, but you can be sure that for the last seven years, I have shown them and talked about self-love and healing.

I still don’t understand why love is not in schools, workplaces, the government, or anywhere we come together as souls. Today, I still love love. But I finally love myself, and I am allowed to receive love. I always tell people the work you do on yourself is the most significant work you will ever do in this lifetime. To feel love and give love is the most amazing gift we have. XO-Rach